Calling a woman who has been abused in her own home a victim is a term that mostly causes noise and discomfort. Understanding that when we become a victim of a person whom we love dearly and who supposedly should be our “protector”, our partner, now becomes the person who can cause us the most pain and with whom we are in the most danger. This is not easy to grasp.
Being a victim and being aware of it helps to find a way out of this relationship. In the same way, we can know how we got into this situation, and the process that originated in us.
It is extremely difficult to get out of a relationship in which violence prevails. And there are several stages in this relationship. One of these stages is the honeymoon, when passive, psychological, emotional and, of course, economic abuse begins to manifest itself. In this aspect, our self-esteem decreases, so slowly and profoundly, so progressively and constantly growing, that we lose control over ourselves and our decisions. Fear, the illusion of change, romantic love, and co-dependence grow with each passing moment, raising the tone and level of violence more and more.
One of the emotional damage that results from domestic violence is Stockholm Syndrome. This is a psychological response in which the victim of an abduction or detention against their will (in this case, the victim of a domestic abuse relationship) develops a complicit relationship and a strong emotional bond with their abductor or servant (partner). .
Now let’s add the determining factor why this type of violence should be treated in this way, in a special way, and should it not be classified as any other type of violence? Because there is a sentimental connection or a connection that precedes violence. There is also an illusion factor when plans and life projects are created together. The origin of this syndrome develops in the misinterpretation of the absence of violence (of any kind) as an act of love/humanity on the part of the aggressor.
Now, understanding the term “victim of domestic violence” from this perspective, we can protect ourselves from the idea of creating guilt in ourselves and start seeking help for what we are: victims.
Silence is the best ally of our aggressors, so talking and finding support networks will be the first step to save yourself and get out of this type of relationship. Violence should never be seen as normal, we should never accept as normal anything that makes us feel less comfortable, insecure or insecure.
FROM BRANDA BORUNDA ESPINOSA
LAW AND MASTER’S DEGREE IN THE STUDY AND PREVENTION OF GENDER-BASED VIOLENCE UNIVERSITY OF SALAMANCA / FORMER DEPUTY OF THE FEDERAL UNION LXVIII LEGISLATIVE COMPOSITION OF THE CONGRESS OF THE UNION
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